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For our 10th post in this series, we're going to go a little deep... maybe? Well, I'm not sure if it's even remotely close to what Gretchen was referring to in discussing happiness, HOWEVER, this is immediately what I think of when relating her point to deep health;
Strive to be emotionally self-sufficient so you can draw closer to other people
After diving deeper into my Sleep, Stress Management and Recovery Coaching certification, I really was opening my eyes to what most people are doing (or not doing) for their deep health.
Most people are NOT sleeping well and/or enough...
Most people are NOT managing stress (many have NO tools in place to do so)...
Most people are NOT recovering well or even at all (mentally, emotionally, physically...) ...
The unfortunate side of this is, it's not as tough as people think to implement tools and strategies in these areas, that would allow us to perform and feel so much better. However, these are often overlooked areas of health (which is why I love the deep health model so much! Because we're complex beings and our health goes deeper than 'eat this, not that' or 'do this, do that').
What's this got to do with being emotionally self-sufficient coach?
Between our lack of tools to create health benefits for ourselves, and the amount of distractions, entertainment and "busy-ness" in our day to day lives, too many of us have little to no skills in listening to our body, mind and soul. We 'numb' our emotions with entertainment / distraction rather than doing things to help us better understand our emotions, better manage them and feel better inside and out.
With that in mind, we also tend to overlook the fact that our emotions USE ENERGY.
-When our mind is distracted and "chasing squirrels" every 2-minutes
-When we don't give our mind/body a break every so often throughout our day
-When we are constantly distracted with entertainment and staring into screens
-When we are constantly switching tasks and rapidly scrolling through information
-When we're physically pushing ourselves, even though we're exhausted
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All of these examples USE ENERGY. And what happens when we're tired / lack energy??
-We lose control of our emotions to a greater extent
-We make poor choices more often (feeling drained or stressed so we reach for the ice cream in the freezer or pour a glass of alcohol to 'calm ourselves')
-We impact our social health by shutting ourselves in more, snapping at others or dragging others down for example
Being emotionally self-sufficient in this case means to LEARN and CREATE A GREATER CONTROL of how we manage our emotions. This means we need to take the time to look inward, learn about what works and what doesn't work for us, learn how we can better care for our body, mind and soul, learn how to ACTUALLY MANAGE emotions rather than "numb" them as we tend to do (and hope they just go away - They don't by the way).
This post I wrote in 2023 highlights the approach that we can take in ALL aspects of deep health (not just physical health). What we're discussing here about emotional self-sufficiency may seem daunting or unachievable, but like most health benefits, it can be achieved by simple, daily practices.
Like taking the time to care for yourself physically so you have a greater ability to care for others, the same goes for the mental, emotional and spiritual side of our health. If we LEARN to be more self-sufficient with tools, strategies and realistic approaches as we move forward, we'll have MORE of ourselves to give to those we love and care for.
Which is something IGNORING emotions WILL 100% NOT DO.
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